When do you have to start being blunt to get your message across?
When a guy goes behind your back and tries to intentionally flirt with one of your friends because you weren't giving them enough attention... don't you think you would take a few steps back and put them into that comfy friend zone? Well I did. There were no hurt feelings on my end instead the rise of the red flags were floating around in my head. I've called him out on his stupidity and let him know that being my friend is the only relationship we will ever have... he listened, tried to change my mind (he was shut down quick) and eventually embraced the change ... or so I thought. Also... may I remind you all that I'm barely 4 months single and not looking for anything - I must have repeated this to him about 100X.
It is now one week later since I apparently crushed him and I don't think I've ever been so annoyed with someone in my life. Alerts from all of my social media accounts are ringing that this person is tagging me in posts, commenting on pictures, reaching out to me ... that's on top of the 100 texts I'm receiving every hour from him. Ok Ok maybe 2-3 but that's still too much. My girlfriends are telling me to push back and be "bitchy" - I am not a mean or rude person so to become this bitchy person is very unlike me and I don't want to hurt any ones feelings.
THIS IS MY DILEMMA! A rational conversation didn't work..... me pulling back and being very short with him isn't working...... is the bitch move the next step?
I pulled this picture off of the Internet .... this is NOT a conversation from my phone but definitely an example of what I'm dealing with here. Ay yay yay...
